Misconception regarding women in Ukraine

[Hampton]

I would first like to say that I was raised in Southern Louisiana. If you knew anything about our culture, you would know that we are raised to be Gentleman. Southern Gentleman. I have been reading in this forum (Ukraine.com) and I have noticed that a lot of men, from all over the world, have a mis-conception regarding Eastern European women. Unfortunately, from a Male stand point, this is fed by the numerous advertisements for marriage with women from these countries. Everyday my junk mail box is filled with these ads. These companies that do this type of arranging are trying to appeal to a group who have given up on love due to their personal appearance. I am a drilling engineer in the oilfield, and I work with many men who suffer from horrible schedules. Which as you can imagine, is very hard on relationships. They have little time to meet women, and have therefore given up on the dating scene. These so called marriage agencies exist for this fact alone. Feeding a starving few. I personally believe that lonely men will do anything for love.

This is a sad fact, but it is true. I have friends that have done the tours, and am a firm believer that the women on these sites are different from their peers in the sense that a foreign man is appealing to them. Not all women feel this way.

I would like to represent the few men who are not pigs, and are not desperately seeking some woman, whom they do not know, to fulfill their hopes of a house in the burbs with a white picket fence. I say again, I am not seeking marriage. I could never marry someone from a .jpg format, or internet site. I have tons of women in my home town looking for love. I would be willing to bet that there are close to the same amount in every country in the world (per capita). So lets all bow our heads for a moment, and show respect for the desperate people in the world. And may they find true love no matter what the cost.

Now, with that said, I would like to come to see the Castles, statues, and history of this great country. I have a great deal of respect for the Ukrainian people. I would love to see the beaches, the countryside, and know everything there is to know about it. If there is anyone on this discussion who feels that my post is something they would like to involve them selves in, by all means, drop a note.

In conclusion, I would like to make friends there. Male and female. Young and old. I want to drink the local drink, I want to smell the smells, and I want to talk the talk.

Thank you for your time.
All the best.


Hampton
Drilling Engineer
Baker Hughes
Houston Tx

[Irinka]

Great post!

Welcome to Ukraine.com

[Hampton]

I would like to say also, to whoever may read this, that to judge Americans from having spent time with only a few Americans, is preposterous (Plain English= contrary to nature, reason, or common sense. See also, ABSURD.) If you could step outside my door here with me, you would be amazed at the life you would see here in my America. Most people think they know the U.S. because they can name our last three Presidential Blunders, but I can assure you that these are the result of powers well out of reach.
I have heard people say, "american men are pigs"...that is somewhat true when you examine the true daily nature of a pig, but I am compelled to elaborate(planned or carried out with great care). Unlike most of the 'men of the world', American men are raised on television and movies. We learn at a young age that EVERYTHING is attainable (to come into possession of). We are, Patriots, Bullys, and Captialists. Now, having said that, I think that most just lack the ability to put down their weapons and their arrogance, and allow people to get to know them. We feel compelled to stare and point fingers rather than get involved, and claim responsibility.

I love my country, as well as my countrymen, but the many shall out way the few.

I would love to discuss or justify any and all that I say or have said. Please feel free to lob in a new topic, or elaborate on mine.

We are all animals, the mere fact that we socialize upright is amazing enough for me. I just strive to make it more tollerable (moderately good or agreeable).

Thank you for reading this.

Hampton

[Zbyszek]

Originally posted by Hampton
...I love my country, as well as my countrymen, but the many shall out way the few.

I would love to discuss or justify any and all that I say or have said. Please feel free to lob in a new topic, or elaborate on mine.

We are all animals, the mere fact that we socialize upright is amazing enough for me. I just strive to make it more tollerable (moderately good or agreeable).

Thank you for reading this.

Hampton

Hi Hampton, I liked your opinion though I can hardly be any specialist on the subject as I live in Poland and English is not my mother tongue.
Education is my primary goal of being present here. Could you help me to improve my understanding of some of your statements?
1. 'out way', do you mean outweigh?
2. 'socialize upright' do you mean to frequent, be in contact using one's vertical position? (otherwise I'd think about the communist term related to making something a property of a state or society as a whole)
3. I think some of the forumers here are likely to demonize Americans. It is none of my approach.
Sorry for my simple questions.
Regards
Zbigniew (like Zbigniew Brzezinski)

[Hampton]

Yes. Sorry about my english. Out weigh. Yes. I believe people can be misled ito thinking to know one is to know all. To socialize upright was a term meaning interact with each other in the upright bipedal position.

As for Kasper, I have read many posts which you have written, and it sounds like you don't like Americans. I can only say to you, stay in Iceland. America has done many great things and contributes many things to the world. What does Iceland contribute? Whale Blubber? Look, I could care less about your opinion regarding we orphans. I would much rather be here than on your iceberg.

Thanks for your attention.

[Bigheart]

I am from Tyler, Texas. For those unaware of the location, in Northeast Texas, where the pineywoods blanket the landscape. Very much similar to where Hampton is from. Hampton, I just want to say I too was educated in the art of being a gentleman, where men say "yes sir" to all grown men and "yes ma'am" to all women, regardless of age. We still open doors for women and elders, stand when a woman approaches a tabel to be seated, give her our coats when cold outside, and generally put everyone else's needs above our own. I agree entirely with your post with the exception of one point, it is possible to find love in a place not near our home; Ukraine for example. There are many, many people in this world, but all men and women seek certain qualities and morality in a lifetime mate. That is what makes us unique, and as you pointed out, differentiates us from all the other animals. I have been married and divorced because I was too quick to decide my ex wife possessed the traits I deemed necessary for a wife and mother of my children. I was gravely in error. I was not thorough enough to see that she and I possessed totally differing opinions on several key issues regarding family values. In fact, because of my stature (5'3" ~ 160cm) I have found most American women to be quite shallow and materialistic. They almost all assume a short man is not able to provide or to keep them safe.

Of course, I have not traveled the world extensivly looking for the "perfect" woman that does not exist, but I do think, (and try as you may, you will not dissuade me) it is possible to find love in other parts of the world. You just have to be brave enough to try. And I am not lonely; if all I wanted was sex or friendly companionship then I could find my fill of it here in Texas. But as a self proclaimed gentleman, I want more from a woman than something merely physical. I want to feel our souls touch when we stare into each others eyes; to communicate almost telepathically because we know each others thoughts so completely. You may consider this a hopeless romantic, but as an old world man, I do think it possible. And I have found no woman here in the States that can come close. I have found one in Ukraine. We have communicated intensely for several months...I have let people here AND there try and tell me she is trying to scam me. I'm sorry, I was starting to believe the nay-sayers....I do not believe them. I believe my new friend and I are headed toward marital happiness. She and I both are educated professionals and have kept an analytical, cautious tone to our learning of one another. You may not agree, but hey, that is perfectly fine with me.

As for Kasper...You don't intimidate me. I see through your humor. I can see your a true gentleman also, you just need to spend a couple months with Hampton and me in the good ole' South. If nothing else, you'll be well fed!

With a Southern Accent,

Scott

[Irinka]

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